Tough people around, no worries JBN !!

Time is flying isn't it? We are in mid April and if I rewind a bit, recently I had welcomed 2020. 4 months have already passed. In these times I feel that technology is the bridge which is helping us to work from home and connect with our colleagues, friends we have at our workplace. Also, we are able to deliver as per our commitments, thanks to the technology. I am sure that everyone of you must be missing the good times, the office environment, specially breakfast and tea breaks with your team. I am definitely missing it....specially when you have one of the best team with you and I feel blessed in that way :)

As this time is permitting me to swing in old times, I do remember the incidents in office, there are people around who are tough and carry different type of approach, you want to be good with them but suddenly their behaviours make you push not to stick with your nice behaviour and we also start flowing in the same behaviour...isn't it ?

Have your ever thought about it...!!

Value systems, yes the set of values which we all carry with us. It is being injected inside us by our parents, family members as we grow in our lives and these set of values play a pivotal role in everybody's life.

Unfortunately, we change our value systems as per other behaviours and do not respect ours. I do remember I had met a guy and we turned friends. He used to live alone. One day he called me and invited me to his flat having a good time together, as it was weekend I thought to go and spend some good time with him. I started at 7 pm but reached to his home at rajouri garden at 8 pm due to traffic. He welcomed me, I found his house too dirty but he tried to cover up saying as he stays alone so didn't get time to clean up.We chatted and kept talking, its being one hour but he didn't offer me anything not even a glass of water and later I came back home at night without having anything. I cooked at home late night as I was hungry. I was upset and tired.

Next weekend he said let's meet again.I said ok but I told him to come over at my place this time. He came and was surprised looking my home which is well managed and cleaned but he laughed and said that it was expected as he was coming to the hotelier's house. I thought to take the revenge and not to offer him anything but then I realised it wont' right to do that, so we had a good snacks with drinks and later ended with dinner.

There was the easy option in the above situation to change my value system as per his value system but was it correct ? I don't think so that It would be right to change my values and adapt his values. My values are much stronger and correct and I should feel proud of that. However, it is sad to see around that people are acting opposite and changing their value systems and getting degraded.

I had read somewhere that "Be so good that they cannot ignore you". The more you give to life, the more life sends back. I know it is not easy to be good with people who carry low value systems but I am sure it is not too challenging that we start degrading ourself's. In these situations the clashes start between your "Mind & Mann" and the inner voice will say "do tit for tat" that is the time when you need to be strong enough that you stick to your set of values and do not degrade it as per the other person.

I know its just not possible to be great what you do but you need to reach for your brilliance and standing for excellence incase you want to grow and get success in your life. Sometimes discouragement sets in and it happens with all of us. That is the time when we need to stick to our value system and follow our ideals around. Life runs at its own way and such people will keep meeting us at every turn.

By the way have you ever "JBN"?

You must be thinking what is this now, JBN stands for Just be Nice !!

The power of being nice is extraordinary. This made me remember the incident when I had joined Mahindra company and I was meeting my new team. Later, I wanted to meet the ground operational staff to understand the operations and its challenges.I went to take the rounds of all breakout areas and started talking to a pantry boys. I asked one of the pantry boy, how's he and how he is managing operations. He said all is good and when I was leaving, he said " Sir, I know about you" I stopped and surprisingly asked, how? He said "my room mate was working in your previous organisation and he knows you.When I told him that in our company Mr Nitin has joined as Boss, he started talking about lot of good things about you and I am happy as you will make us learn new things too" This is the power of being nice, as people are looking forward to be with you.

Being nice is the habit, if you inculcate in yourself, it will make you popular and demanding in the crowd and I am sure everyone wanted to be with nice people around.

In our daily routines, if we being nice to team mates so they look forward to come to office everyday and can work with you and it helps to retain superb talent with you as well, as who wants to work with bad Boss. Be nice to your suppliers (they will go to next level to support you in crises). You must have experienced it when you are nice to people, they go to next mile for you.I am sure you had experienced it in the restaurants where the steward when to extra mile if you were nice to him. You will also prefer to go every-time to the same restaurant because you get the nice treatment and it makes you feel special.

So Just be nice, stick to your value systems and keep brushing it. Gradually, you will realise that you are the most liked person around :)

Cheers !!